Tuesday, August 22, 2017
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Welcome to the second installment in our 10-week series titled “Toxic Tea Film Festival – Exposing the Agenda.” This is a joint project of Red State Dems and The Everlasting GOP Stoppers.

The Tea Party movement has taken American politics by storm. But is this truly a populist uprising or one of the greatest feats of propaganda ever seen?

Seeking to find out, Australian filmmaker Taki Oldham embeds himself in the Tea Party uprising. From men sporting tri-corner hats in Louisville Kentucky (the movement takes name from a key event in the American revolution) to 100,000 placard waving patriots in Washington D.C. ‘taking our country back’ from Obama’s ‘communist’ regime. But who are generals of this army?

Enter brothers Charles and David Koch. Oilmen, billionaires 20 times over and on a mission to create a privatized America. For three decades they’ve unwritten a propaganda war, funding fake grassroots groups (branded ‘astroturf’ by opponents) to dupe citizens into protesting on behalf of some of Americas most powerful people and corporations. As Taki infiltrates one such group, Americans For Prosperity, he captures David Koch beaming as operatives report running Tea Party events all over the country.

Weaving together commentary from propaganda experts and political insiders with unprecedented footage, The Billionaires’ Tea Party follows astroturf groups Americans For Prosperity and Freedomworks coopting the movement from day one. As the Koch’s extreme vision of free market capitalism is woven into that cherished American spirit of individual freedom, the patriotic Tea Partiers are guided to oppose key elements of the Obama agenda. Witness hysterical scenes as a proposed Health Care bill is reframed as Soviet style ‘socialised medicine’. Follow industry-funded spin doctors and scientists dismissing Obama’s climate bill a liberal conspiracy to control peoples lives and destroy the economy. See the cosy relationship between Koch operatives and Fox News. Come undercover as Tea Partiers are indoctrinated into equating their own interests with those of corporate America. Finally, see the stunning culmination at the 2010 elections as fully 1/3 of those elected are Tea Party endorsed candidates out to make Koch’s dream a reality.

With America now facing a new era of budget-slashing union-busting politics, The Billionaires’ Tea Party is both a journey through a unique moment in American history and chilling portent of the corporate takeover of democracy.

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Jack is a North Dakota political blogger who also writes for dogWAGGER.com. He is a military veteran and a Christian Democratic Socialist.

  • Jessica

    Super sad but this is the fantastic state of a Bible belt we live in. Smh..

  • Ken Russell

    I question the legality of the Owner of the Red Cap (A private citizen) reaching into her car and stealing her license. Tag Agencies are privately owned in Oklahoma.

    • tgrigsby

      That was my thought, too. That sounds like theft to me. I wonder if there were any security cameras that caught the act?

    • ChildDevTeacher

      I agree, but (having lived in OK) even if she made a complaint I don’t think she’d find anyone who’d give her a fair hearing about. They’d probably just turn a blind eye…

      so sad.

  • jbandsma

    While stupid to the max, there is a work around. In Holland, married women hyphenate their names…with their MAIDEN name -last-. My mother-in-law was Bandsma de Jong, my sister-in-law is Bandsma Hilkemeyer. I should be Bandsma Purvis, but we never thought of actually doing it that way. Let them try to refuse her if she does it that way.

  • Jaguwar

    Actually, her marital status shouldn’t matter. Her name has changed, period. Give her the same rights as anyone else who has a legal name change. Problem solved. smh

    • Lorinda Lavenz

      CORRECT!! All she should need is the Court paper stating the name change. May have to contact the court jurisdiction in Iowa to issue her a court statement–notorized– that indicates the name difference w/o mention of marriage. Much like you receive when divorcing and taking back your maiden name.

      • http://goingloopy.wordpress.com/ goingloopy

        Actually, I’m pretty sure you can change your name to whatever you want, for whatever reason you want, as long as you are not attempting to defraud anyone (like creditors). If you file it in Oklahoma County, though, try to avoid Judge Graves…he’s the one who wouldn’t allow someone who had undergone gender-reassignment surgery to change her name.

        It sucks that you’ll have to actually file with the court to do this, and you shouldn’t have to. However, for the interim, so Sara can cash her checks, book plane tickets, etc., a legal name change will do that.

        This state is so dumb sometimes.

        • syykkogrl

          My first husband legally changed his ENTIRE name as soon as he turned 18. He was given his father’s name at birth and changed his first, middle, AND last name just because he didn’t like his given name. Not long after, when his father became upset that he didn’t keep the last name, he petitioned the court to change his name again to take back his dad’s last name. So…if he can do all that for NO reason, there should be NO Issues for this woman who has legal documentation that her name was changed. And social security is a federal agency. If they honored it, local authorities should be required to honor it as well.

        • jaduncan

          “Judge Graves…he’s the one who wouldn’t allow someone who had undergone gender-reassignment surgery to change her name.”

          What the hell? I wish I had something more sophisticated to say, but I can’t believe he’s still on the bench. Do you have a link to the ruling at all?

    • TammieH

      Exactly!

  • Tim

    sue the their asses!

    • johnbuoy

      It certainly has been demonstrated that the way to get compliance from ignorant folks like this is to hit them in the wallet. That’s the only thing they understand.

  • Analtha Moroffko

    WHAT IS A TAG AGENCY? We don’t have tag agencies in Washington state.

    • Baron Von Keyser

      Before i moved here i had no idea wtf it was either. Instead of a DMV the state of OK has privately run “Tag Agency’s” Its a damn joke here.

      • TJHillgardner

        Why live in such a backward place? Vote with your feet and your money and get the Hell out of there!

        • Baron Von Keyser

          believe me im working on it

    • Donna

      In Oklahoma we don’t have a DMV or an MVA like in other states. Tag Agencies are where you go to get your plates for your car, your state-issued identification, license to drive, etc. They are privately owned but sanctioned by the state to perform this function.

    • Aaron Lynch

      Wa calls them License TABS which makes no sense to me whatsoever.

      • Analtha Moroffko

        It makes perfect sense, we buy tabs every year to put on our license plate. We don’t get new ones every year.

        • Analtha Moroffko

          I mean we don’t get new PLATES every year, just a year tab.

          • Joy Easley

            We don’t get a new plate every year in OK either, just new tags to put on our plates.

        • Aaron Lynch

          And yet, the rest of the country calls the same thing a “tag” 🙂

  • Laura Williamson

    My wife and I were married March 19, 2013 in Iowa as well and I faced the same dilemma. I have a social security card with my married changed name and a driver’s license with my maiden. Thanks Oklahoma for not allowing something the federal government does! I’m not asking you to accept, I’m asking for you to follow a legal name change signed by a judge! That should be contempt!

    • Billy Farmer

      call the news, you and this girl both should call the news

      • Kristen

        Except the local news stations would likely refuse, since the people here are frankly a bunch of rednecks and proud of it :/ I know of a local pagan group who did some fundraising and recovery work after the Moore tornado this spring. The news was full of Christian groups helping with the recovery. When this pagan group asked for coverage as well, to let people know they were out there, they were turned down with an accusation of having an “agenda”. Instead of, you know, just being regular people trying to help out.

  • Billy Farmer

    if that was me, i would had broke that bitches hand when she reached in my car and let her call the police, she was trespassing , if nothing else, she should had bite that bitches arm hands fingers etc..

    • Analtha Moroffko

      I agree….bite her hand! slap her hand out of the car, refuse to give it back

  • Donna

    If her name is legally on the federal level what she changed it to, and it is, Oklahoma must issue the proper identification with her FEDERALLY REASSIGNED name. Period. It doesn’t matter if she changed it to Kat Mandu… if that’s her name, it goes on her license. She needs a lawyer and a class-action suit against the state including all other Oklahoma residents who have been discriminated against in this way. Tag Agencies in Oklahoma have no reason to scrutinize that marriage licence so closely as to note the name and gender of your spouse.

    • Wesley Perkins

      If she would have waited for her social security card, there probably would not have been a problem. However, she tried to use a document that is not legally binding on the State of Oklahoma.

      • Laura Williamson

        I waited for my social security card to come in the mail and was still asked to provide a document showing a signed document with the name change, ie. marriage lisence, divorce decree, etc. Didn’t work either.

      • Marc Thomas

        Actually it is binding. “Full Faith and Credit shall be given in each State to the public Acts, Records, and judicial Proceedings of every other State.” U.S. Constitution, Article IV, Section I.

        • Stev84

          Unfortunately, the courts – in their never ending quest to limit people’s rights in favor of state tyranny – have long ago created a so-called “public policy exemption” to the FFaCC. A state can ignore laws from other states if they conflict with their “public policy”.

          This does not apply to court judgments (only laws), which is why divorces or adoptions are portable.

          • Marc Thomas

            Could you site the case for me please? I like to be updated on such things.

    • matthewmaurice

      After the first place “presented her with a document that instructs tag agencies in Oklahoma to refuse to issue new identification to same-sex couples” her next stop should have been a lawyer. Until a Federal court, likely the Supreme, orders them to stop, Oklahoma will discriminate as much as they want. Whether it’s same-sex marriage, minority voter rights, and/or abortion rights these Red States with GOP/TEA party majorities in their legislatures are going to continue to pursue their racist/sexist/homophobic policies until they’re adjured from doing so. So getting these issues into a Federal courthouse, uh…sooner (pardon the pun) rather than later is key.

  • Brandy J Williams

    I cannot begin to express the rage I felt while reading this. I would have ended up in jail.

  • Julia Sands Tiller

    I would file charges against Red Cap for unlawful imprisonment (guy who blocked her from leaving), assault and battery (snatching the driver’s license from her hand), and theft (taking the driver’s license). I am really tired of Oklahoma government’s stance on gay marriage. Its here to stay, get over it, move on. There are more important issues to take a stand on.

    • Wesley Perkins

      FYI, It went to a vote of The People and was DENIED. State Government is following the law.

      • Julia Sands Tiller

        Well, the people were wrong. This is like living in 1960’s Jackson, Mississippi. It doesn’t matter what is right, as long as a bunch of racist rednecks get their way.

      • Kerry Morgan

        Same sex marriage was, but these couples were married in states where same sex marriage IS legal, and their union is binding. By refusing to issue identification to a legal citizen in their legal name, the state is denying these people equal protection under the law, which is a constitutional right.

      • Grazel

        I doubt that the people’s vote had anything to do with issuing a license with a persons legal name. Even if the marriage isn’t recognized by the state her name is legally different and they are required to issue her a license with her legal name on it.

        • John Herider

          Wrong Oklahoma law states ”

          Ҥ43-3.1. Recognition of marriage between persons of
          same gender prohibited.

          A marriage between persons of the
          same gender performed in another state shall not be recognized as valid and
          binding in this state as of the date of the marriage.

          [1] Added
          by Laws 1996, c. 131, § 9, eff. Jan. 1, 1997.”

          BDERIV

          Oklahoma state Law under marriage…section 43-3-1. so they don’t have that right in Oklahoma

          • Rachel Farrar

            Nobody is asking them to recognize the marriage. They just need to recognize the name change. Totally separate issue. Why or how she got her name changed is irrelevant.

          • Rob

            Doof! The discussion isn’t whether they State recognizes her marriage it is that the tag agencies are claiming that her LEGAL NAME can’t be used when in fact it can! I will contribute to a legal fund if we can get one going for these girls and anyone else who would be oppressed by this backwards bullshit!

          • ChildDevTeacher

            The problem may be that the Oklahoma state government agencies may see “legal name change” under this circumstance as falling under recognition of same-sex marriage. I’m not saying they’re correct, I don’t believe they are, BUT that may be the black and white thinking they are following. I don’t see why she can’t just go in with the barest of legal documents and say “yeah I got married, here’s my SS card with my legal name on it, I want my license to match. go!” and that’s that. No need to get political or make a spectacle, just get the job done with as little stress to this poor girl as possible.

          • ChildDevTeacher

            This is going on the assumption that she has no interest in being a political martyr or something. Some people want to make an example of situations like this, but some don’t.

          • Sara Doolin Maib

            This time they picked on someone willing to fight back. 😉

          • ChildDevTeacher

            Well good! Make a big stink, make it loud. (oklahoma hates that lol) And make the logical argument. (…they hate that too). I wish you tons of luck in getting this situation fired up and corrected!! AND congratulations on your nuptials!!!

          • Lmaris

            The name change was legal where it was done, in Iowa. The marriage may not be recognized, but the name change must.

          • Grazel

            But this isn’t about recognition of their marriage, it’s about issuing a government ID using a legal name. Just as NH had to issue me a new ID with my new legal name when I changed my name (not tied to a same-sex marriage but I am gay) and they weren’t even allowed to ask why my name had changed. I had the proper paperwork to show a change of name and that’s all they could go by. If it’s her legal name (tied to SS, used to file federal taxes, how she signs her name) they can’t deny an ID with that name on it even if they don’t like/recognize WHY she has a new legal name.

          • Joseph Shore-Goss

            marriage or not a legal name change is “Legal” they cannot deny it on her license. they are breaking the law

      • Barasha

        When states get to vote who does and doesn’t get rights there is no fairness. Blacks would still be segregated and women wouldn’t have the vote still to this day.

        • Guest

          You probably shouldn’t bring that up on a Dem site. They like to avoid the fact that it was Republicans that fought for the rights of African-Americans and women, while the Dems were running the KKK.

          • Barasha

            You do realize that the parties flipped in the 60s? It’s called know your history. The dixiecrats went to the Republican party when the civil rights act was signed all of the racists went over to the Republican party where they have stayed and breeded more racists. Nice try though.

          • Barasha

            http://www.washingtonmonthly.com/archives/individual/2010_05/023915.php

            Funny how when Republicans feel the sting of their party being racists they drag that out. But really- it is a non starter for anyone who knows history.

          • RedStateDems

            William – you’re almost half correct, but you can’t rewrite history here. It was liberal northern Republicans who fought the southerners to free the slaves, but the KKK wasn’t a Democratic group – they were southern conservative bigots – who are still around and now members of the Republican party. As the saying goes: not all Republicans are racists but most racists are Republicans.

          • Juan Robbins

            That is quite a saying. When I was in college we studied psych experiments where Republicans were more overt racists but Democrats demonstrated more aversive racism.

          • RedStateDems

            I think the term you were looking for is covert (being the opposite of overt). Unless you’re saying Democrats are averse to racism, in which case you’d be correct. We find racism quite distasteful and are averse to it.

          • Juan Robbins

            No, I meant what I said. I have to tell you that I know many white blue collar Democrats that are horrible racists, so when you say “we” you are speaking for your constituents, but not all Democrats I assure you.

          • RedStateDems

            I stand corrected. I had to read up on aversive racism as it was a term I wasn’t familiar with.

            While I agree that racism exists across the bounds of political parties, my personal experience has been that the Democratic party as a whole is very inclusive in it’s policies and strategies whereas racism is a plank of the Republican party.

          • Star Sierra Carmona

            i believe that the KKK infiltrated both parties despite what people try to lead others to believe.

          • Rachel Farrar

            You act like the people who were republicans back then would be republicans today.

          • Lmaris

            Nearly a century ago. Now, those trying to bring back Jim Crow and disenfranchise blacks are all GOP.

          • DemSmart

            Actually, we Democrats (not Dems, but Democrats) know full well that’s how it went. We also know that those KKK Democrats and their ilk fled the party in droves after LBJ passed the Voting Rights Act. They fled to the Republican party — where they still are today.

        • John Herider

          Wrong… When making a statement look up the info first so you don’t look uneducated. The correct answer is Wyoming was the first state in which women were able to vote, although it was a condition of the transition to statehood. Utah was the second territory to allow women to vote, but the federal Edmunds–Tucker Act of 1887 repealed woman’s suffrage in Utah. Colorado was the first established state to allow women to vote on the same basis as men. Some other states also extended the franchise to women before the Constitution was amended. With ratification of the Nineteenth Amendment, women were granted the right to vote in time to participate in the Presidential election of 1920.

          Another political movement that was largely driven by women in the same era was the anti-alcohol Temperance movement, which led to the Eighteenth Amendment and Prohibition. Federal Government Tried to stop women’s right to vote.

          Blacks as you would call them.were also give rights first by State constitutions protecting voting rights for blacks included those of Delaware (1776), Maryland (1776), New Hampshire (1784), and New York (1777). (Constitution signer Rufus King declared that in New York, “a citizen of color was entitled to all the privileges of a citizen. . . . [and] entitled to vote.”) Pennsylvania also extended such rights in her 1776 constitution, [10] as did Massachusetts in her 1780 constitution.

          Reading and understanding of state government laws are important to understand. If you don’t use history as your reference it will bit you in the butt.

          • Barasha

            So Brown v Board of education ment nothing huh? A state here and there did the right thing. Much like gay marriage now. But it took an federal order for it to work nation wide.

          • Lana Janoski

            Actually, John, women might have had a lot to say behind the scenes during the temperance movement, but men actually had the vote on that one. The Volstead Act was actually passed in 1919. Since women didn’t gain suffrage until 1920, that puts men at fault for the failed dry spell experiment, not women…

      • fiks

        Except they’re ignoring Full Faith and Credit.

        • Julia Sands Tiller

          It is the part of DOMA that was not repealed that allows them to ignore Full Faith and Credit.

          • Lmaris

            Only where it applies to the recognition of marriage. This is not the issue in question here, merely the recognition of a name change recognized by the federal government.

      • Lmaris

        The Red Cap people did not have the right to imprison, assault, and commit theft on the woman. She has legally changed her name, for whatever reason, and the state agency has no right to deny the license based on her new name.

      • Joseph Shore-Goss

        the vote is illegal people do not get to vote on human rights it will be knocked down!

      • Lisa Barker

        Incorrect. It was a vote of exclusivity (define marriage as between a man and woman) not of inclusivity (allowing same sex marriage). it is completely different.

  • Travis Urban

    why not just get a federally issued passport? I mean yes the issue at hand is the state denying the ID but there are other ways to cash checks, book flights then just a state issued ID the ID or Driver License is really just that a drivers license there are many other valid forms of ID that are not state issued.

    • Kristen

      It is generally expected that all forms of ID will have uniformity, especially over something as important as your name. What if she were to work for the state government? Would they accept her new passport, for example, with her new SSN card, or would they force her to use her maiden name under the same justification as the tag agency? What a nightmare come tax time! She’d have documents with two different names linked to the same SSN — try explaining that one to the IRS.

      • Sara Doolin Maib

        Well I had not even thought that far ahead but damn….

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      So you and others suggested I try the passport route. I would like a passport someday. I looked into it and it is even more expensive than filing for a court order to change my name. But here is the kicker… to get my first passport I will need a valid ID. So I am free to get a passport but only in my maiden name. Straight people can pay ten dollars and change their name. I am looking at over $100 court filing fee, or over $100 passport that is still wrong, or lawsuit that may take years.

  • Wesley Perkins

    As long as she had documentation of a legal name change, which the state of Oklahoma recognizes, there should not have been a problem. Since the State of Oklahoma does not recognize same sex marriage, a marriage certificate from another state isn’t going to work. I feel for her, but same sex marriage is only legal and accepted in 13 states. This was on the last general ballot and Oklahoma has voted it down.

    • Amanda Haines

      I’m straight and Oklahoma would recognize my marriage license from Iowa (or any other state) as proper identification. Not recognizing a license from a gay couple is discrimination. Pure. Simple. Discrimination. And being so it’s illegal.

      • Queen Anonymous

        Not here it isn’t.

        • BZ

          “Queen Anonymous” go fight your own battles, stupid.

    • RexTIII

      Her name was legally changed and the legal document she holds is recognized by the State of Oklahoma as such. The reason the document was issued is irrelevant to the legal name change as the State has already determined this document issued by Iowa is sufficient. Oklahoma law does not invalidate the legality of the document issued in another State for the purpose of Marriage legally recognized within that State as a Marriage. If Oklahoma no longer wishes to recognize a Legal Marriage License as sufficient for it’s citizens to change their name within the State, requiring it’s citizens to do so in front of a court and paying applicable costs, (mass opposition will certainly prevail) legislative steps can be taken. Until then, the legality of the marriage license has been deemed ‘a sufficient document’ for a name change in the State, ignoring the Legal Marriage associated with the document.

      However, the good news – this is one more example of why Oklahoma, along with other States, will soon face the reality, their laws are Unconstitutional, and get on with being part of America. We all win.

  • disqus_QitIW1aGkv

    I support marriage equality; however, this couple should have done their research beforehand before they moved to a state that practices discrimination. Not all states are obligated to recognized marriages from other states where it is legal.

    • Guest

      I hate to break it to conservatives, same-sex marriage IS legal in every state. They just haven’t figured it out , yet.

      At least, this is the way I see it:

      When SCOTUS ruled DOMA unconstitutional and ordered the Federal government to recognize marriages from states that allow it. They set the grounds by which ALL states would have to recognize LEGAL marriages from those states as well, pursuant to Article IV, Section 1, of the U.S. Constitution. Known familiarly as the “Full Faith and Credit Clause”, which addresses the duties that states within the United States have to respect the “public acts, records, and judicial proceedings of every other state.” Once that is established, the “equal protection clause” of the 14th amendment kicks in.

      • Queen Anonymous

        Oklahoma constitution says marriage involves a chick and a dude. Period. At that point it’s the state government against the federal.

        • Sara Doolin Maib

          Queen anonymous is very likely the Red Cap tag agency.

    • Jay Holland

      Same-sex marriage will be legal in every state. They just haven’t figured it out , yet.

      At least, this is the way I see it:

      When SCOTUS ruled DOMA unconstitutional and ordered the Federal government to recognize marriages from states that allow it. They set the grounds by which ALL states would have to recognize LEGAL marriages from those states as well, pursuant to Article IV, Section 1, of the U.S. Constitution. Known familiarly as the “Full Faith and Credit Clause”, which addresses the duties that states within the United States have to respect the “public acts, records, and judicial proceedings of every other state.” Once that is established, the “equal protection clause” of the 14th amendment kicks in.

      I don’t see any other way this can go.

    • Kristen

      You know, some people end up living in discriminatory states not by choice, but by circumstance: by birth, or needing a job that happens to be in one of those states. “Just move to another state” isn’t really all that easy unless one is independently wealthy.

      • Queen Anonymous

        Then suck it up til you have the ability to move. Not go get married in another state and come back thinking everything is all peachy keen, I think she was stupid for not planning things out and doing a bit of research beforehand.

        • Sara Doolin Maib

          Queen anonymous is very likely the Red Cap tag agency. Here to continue the bullying.

    • fiks

      You do realize that people can change their names for any reason, right? And you can have someone else’s last name without being related to/married to them, right? Also, full faith and credit rule should be enforced.

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      First I didn’t move here I was born here. I love here. My family is here. I want to raise my children here. Oklahoma is my heart and my home. Second, I did my research. I know a few couples made up of two women, who went to Iowa, who changed their names. I did my research. Talked to friends who had done this before me. Just like any other person who is getting married and changing their name for the first time. One of the many problems, other than that this is just plain wrong, is this crack down on issuing ID’s to gay people changing their name is new. I was completely unprepared for being turned away that day, but not for a lack of preparation on my part. This is in no way my fault. I just want my name. I didn’t want to fight that day. I don’t want to fight now. But I got picked on. I grew up with three brothers so I don’t know how else to go about it, but to finish this.

  • janetinak

    Wouldn’t the repeal of DOMA give this marriage full faith and credit as with any couple who got married in another state? It is discrimination on the federal level. Doesn’t matter if the state has a law preventing same-gender marriage, they are legally married and she (and others like her) definitely have a legal right to update their driver’s license. I hope a progressive attorney takes this on a pro bono basis.

    • Ace_of_Sevens

      DOMA wasn’t repealed, just the part that barred the federal government from recognizing same-sex marriages. Other states are still free to not recognize them. However, DOMA only applies to marriages, not to name changes. Oklahoma can’t do this.

      • Kristen

        If the federal government recognizes a name change related to marriage, same-sex or opposite-sex, as I understand things, federal law then overrules state/local laws. If the federal government accepts her name change and officially changes the name associated with her SSN, it shouldn’t matter to OK (or any other state) what the *reason* for the name change is. Her name is legally different, and so she is entitled to accurate ID reflecting that new name.

  • Sharon Christine Theberge

    Doesn’t matter about marital status. Her name was legally changed. When i got my new license in August, I had to show my social security card and marriage certificate and my former name license. Just to make sure I was who I said I was. They shouldn’t been allowed to keep her from leaving, and to steal her license from her in her private car. If they had such an issue, they should have called the cops. But seriously. Her name changed. Legally.

  • Monika Gross

    Anyone can change their name legally at any time. It doesn’t matter if it is your married name or a name that you have chosen for any reason you like. There is a simple and straightforward legal procedure to do this, and she should definitely change her name in that manner to her married name. There is no legal way that they can refuse ID to her after that.

    • Kristen

      What you are suggesting is effectively a “queer tax” — there are extra fees involved in getting your name changed through the courts. Fees that opposite-gender couples do not incur when they marry and the wife chooses to change her legal name.

      It would be an effective way to get the state to recognize her new name, no doubt. But at the federal level, she has ALREADY undergone the legal name change. Oklahoma does not have the right to declare that legal name change invalid.

      • Monika Gross

        You are correct about the unjust inequity here, Kristen. I do not condone what happened to this woman or any gay married couple. Just following a thread that was started earlier in the postings soliciting suggestions as to how in the short-term she can assure her name matches legal documents. I am not in favor of keeping this system the way it is. In the near future I am convinced this will all be moot and marriage equality will be the norm in America. I have edited my entry above to make it clearer that this is a suggestion only to help in the short term.

  • Jay Holland

    I hate to break it to conservatives, same-sex marriage IS legal in every state. They just haven’t figured it out , yet.

    At least, this is the way I see it:

    When SCOTUS ruled DOMA unconstitutional and ordered the Federal government to recognize marriages from states that allow it. They set the grounds by which ALL states would have to recognize LEGAL marriages from those states as well, pursuant to Article IV, Section 1, of the U.S. Constitution. Known familiarly as the “Full Faith and Credit Clause”, which addresses the duties that states within the United States have to respect the “public acts, records, and judicial proceedings of every other state.” Once that is established, the “equal protection clause” of the 14th amendment kicks in.

    I don’t see any other way this can go.

    • Nate Heupel

      Jay, sadly, you are dead wrong. The Supreme Court did not overturn all of DOMA. They only overturned the part that required the federal government to deny federal benefits to legally married homosexual couples. There is another part of DOMA, and it remains fully intact. It states that a state that doesn’t permit gay marriage is not required to recognize a gay marriage performed in a state where such is legal. I’m not saying I agree with it, but it is the law on the books right now.

      • Kristen

        But would not the part of federal law that overrules state laws when it comes to discrepancies like this apply here? The federal law has already accepted her legal name change, they are changing the name associated with her SSN. Once that is done, OK should not have the right to question the reasons for the name change; her name is different, and so she is ENTITLED to use her LEGAL NAME on all forms of ID. Period.

        • Aaron Lynch

          It seems to me like any other solution is totally unworkable.

        • Rachel Farrar

          The only reason the other part of DOMA remains intact is because it wasn’t challenged. The Supreme Court can’t decide on an issue not brought before them. Most likely, at some point in the next few years, someone will bring a case challenging that section as well. And, hopefully, it too will be ruled unconsitutional.

          • Stev84

            And it wasn’t challenged, because the Supreme Court hollowed out the Full Faith and Credit Clause decades ago in order to make it easier for states to oppress people:

            http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Full_faith_and_credit_clause#Interpretation_after_ratification_of_the_Constitution

            Even with Section 2 gone, states could still decide to be asshats and ignore any law they don’t like. Only court judgments are fully portable. It’s an absurd situation of course in a country that pretends to be “united”.

          • Rachel Farrar

            Hollowed it out decades ago to make it easier for states to oppress people? I’m not sure what you’re talking about. And yeah, states only have to recognize judgments from other states. That’s not something new. Having a court declare you are married is a judgment.

    • Rob

      I like Jay! {:o)
      and yes i’m gay!

  • Nate Heupel

    I’ll restate this so everyone catches it. DOMA was NOT struck down. Read that carefully: DOMA WAS NOT STRUCK DOWN. A specific provision in DOMA was struck down, but the rest of the law is intact. Specifically, the part of DOMA that states no state has to recognize a gay marriage done in another state is intact and in force.

  • http://www.ExposingTheAgenda.com/ Rob

    I read articles like this and wonder about a lot of things in our society. I am neither for nor against same-sex marriages. I don’t give a =3 what you do in your bedroom.

    But, this is a pretty classic self-induced stress scenario. And, it’s incredibly abusive to everyone involved. And, sorry to say, it’s the same-sex couple inducing the stress.

    They induced stress for themselves by traveling to a same-sex-legal state to get married while not realizing it might have been a good idea to stay there. Or, perhaps, relocate to another state that isn’t stuck in the Dark Ages like Oklahoma appears to be. They would, for example, have almost zero social issues in a state like California.

    They also induce stress for the backward rednecks of Oklahoma. See, the backward rednecks have chosen places like Oklahoma. And, frankly, America is happy to store them somewhere out of the way. What better place *than* Oklahoma? BUT, they are essentially trying to force their same-sex way of life on a pile of backward rednecks that make Honey Boo-Boo look like a prodigal genius. So, as to be expected, the backward rednecks being muttering, “Ayawwww, the heyall yoyu weyall,” (Oh, the hell you will),

    [secret redneck-speak decoder ring: Simply remove the ‘y’ between every vowel of every word].

    Their belief that they would somehow magically be able to travel to another state, get married and return home with zero issues is what is causing stress for everyone involved. They’ve gone straight through ask and tell, directly to force and are forcing their lifestyle on a pile of rednecks. It’s just not going to go well.

    So, it becomes a situation of stress that now makes us all want to care, offer an opinion as to who should change to accommodate the other(s). And, based on reality and not emotion, it would have to be the same-sex couple.

    Reality says that it is currently not legal in backwards-ass Oklahoma for same-sex couples to be married. And, they have a specific law (or policy or whatever, who cares?) mandating that driver’s licenses not be changed/issued to persons in same-sex marriages who are changing their name.

    The zero-stress thing to do is let the backwards rednecks have Oklahoma after acknowledging the following: You didn’t ask to be born there. Neither did they. And, while you’d think a pile of backward rednecks could change their thinking such that a same-sex couple could be able to exist peacefully in their society, THEY ARE CALLED BACKWARD REDNECKS AND STORED IN OKLAHOMA FOR A REASON.

    The same-sex couple simply has to accept reality:

    1. Do not adopt the use of your spouse’s name legally until it’s actually legal to do so. This would make the most sense. You get to stay where you are, live peacefully and push for reform of the laws in your way of the life you want to live.

    2. Relocate to a same-sex-friendly state. There are plenty of them. They are ALL nicer places to live than Oklahoma when measured along literally any axis.

    3. Get a divorce.

    #3 makes as little sense as traveling to Iowa to get married in the first place. So, I would recommend exploring your options in #1 or #2. You’ll still have a little bit of stress because you *want* to use your spouse’s last name legally. But, sweethearts, it’s just not legal where you live, okay?

    I hope this makes sense, but acknowledge it won’t get through to many. I don’t know what my problem is, but I seem to have Internet communications issues.

    I think it’s the fact that I use multi-syllabic words on sites like redstatedems.com after finding myself in the weird part of the Internet again involuntarily after one-too-many misguided mouse clicks. Screw this. It’s 2013. Grow up, folks. I’m out…

    • Stev84

      Why don’t you go kill yourself to spare us all the stress of breathing the same air as you?

      • http://www.ExposingTheAgenda.com/ Rob

        No. But, if you’re looking for some help walking the path you’ve described, think of me as here to help. Or, you know, just stay stupid and fucked up…but…keep that to yourself (tool).

  • PennsyPanda

    It’s things like this that make me happy I left Oklahoma…

  • queenofbuttermilk

    I have a sinking feeling that this will also affect her voting rights too.

    • Queen Anonymous

      It affects everything, but hate the state and it’s government, not the owner and her employees trying to make a living by obeying the state.

  • Forbidden Fruit

    It doesn’t matter WHY her name changed. It’s her legal name now and the state must recognize that – DOMA or not.

    I’d be in prison if I still lived in Oklahoma. The bitch who snatched the ID would’ve pulled back a nub.

  • Benjamin Weller

    While traumatizing and a pain in the ass for Sara, this could be a good thing in the long term. These are the kind of lawsuits that are going to get things changed in the less progressive (ass-backward) states. It would be nice if it didn’t have to happen this way but the only way it will happen is if we keep fighting.

  • Nicole Clark

    Ladies, you got married here in Iowa, come on back. We have marriage equality enshrined in our state constitution, any right granted to one group cannot be denied to others. I’d stick to the larger cities on the eastern side though, we have our share of bigots too. But here you would have all the rights and benefits that you deserve.

  • Marc Thomas

    They don’t have a choice about the name change, regardless of Oklahoma law. “Full Faith and Credit shall be given in each State to the public Acts, Records, and judicial Proceedings of every other State.” U.S. Constitution, Article IV, Section I.

    • Stev84

      Look up the so-called “public policy exemption” to that. The Supreme Court never liked that the FFaCC, if read literally, makes it hard for states to pretend that they are independent countries instead of a subdivision of a larger political entity.

  • Kathleenicorn

    wtf is wrong with these people? its a name on a tag its not hurting anyone and has no effect on them whatsoever. bitches, all of them!

  • Kathleenicorn

    she should sue

  • Crystal Richardson

    Sounds like a bunch of bull to me.

    • Queen Anonymous

      Moderately bull.

  • Will Koone

    I’ve used both of these tag agencies before. Now they have totally lost my business permanently.

  • Juan Robbins

    Is this story even true? No information about the author, little information given, man steps in front of car and a woman reaches in and grabs the license? If you are going to publish an article to prove your point you should want to convince doubters, not just rally your base.

    • RedStateDems

      The responsibility of the writer is to tell the story truthfully to the best of their abilities. This isn’t Fox News. We don’t skew a story to rally anyone.

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      Juan while I appreciate your skepticism. I am Sara Maib I am real. This really is happening to me. No I am not making it up to rally a base of people. My conservative republican parents are also pretty pissed off this is happening to me. I don’t know the name of the kid who stopped me. I don’t know the name of the lady who reached in my car. But I could ID them if I saw them. I was too busy being treated like a criminal and being discriminated against in that moment to think I might be a political point, or I might have a case. I was just trying to get an ID with my name on it and go back to work.

      • Queen Anonymous

        The sweetie part above is for you, I replied to the wrong person.

    • Queen Anonymous

      Unfortunately this is not completely true, it had nothing to do with the fact she married a chick. The Oklahoma state tax commission (state government) sent a notice to all agencies including the dmv, highway patrol, and tag agencies that Oklahoma State Government will not recognize same sex marriages. Until it’s legal across all 50 states, they’re not going to give a damn.

      The owner, first of all did not SNATCH the licence out of her hand, one of the other guys ran out, waved his hands, she stopped and rolled down her window and her and the owner had a discussion that it is illegal for her to have her licence. Period. In Oklahoma that licence would be invalid. And just as well, the owner would have gotten in big trouble with the state. Tag agents have lost their licences to own their tag agencies for less than that. Her business and her livelihood would have been at stake.

      The girl was argumentative but when she threw out the word “illegal” she parked her vehicle, got out, handed over the card, albeit resentfully, and went back inside and took another picture for a licence with her maiden name.

      The So to all the obvious Oklahoma law scholars out there, it had to happen. For dicks sake it’s Oklahoma , the last state to even think about gay marriage and pot. I feel for her, but she chooses to live here.

      If the little girl wants to challenge it, I dare her. She’ll get eaten alive. Even I’m not that stupid.

      Sweetie, just kiss your ring and your wife, and remember that there are people out here who love you and are proud of you, but there are even more people out there that think we’re an abomination. This isn’t the buckle of the bible belt because it sounds cool. Religion is a menace to society, but I don’t see it changing anytime soon. Peace.

      • Sara Doolin Maib

        I don’t know who you are. But your account of what happened is completely and totally untrue. If you were there then you know you are lying. If you weren’t then why are you pretending you know what happened?

      • Sara Doolin Maib

        He waved his hands and put his body in front of my moving car. I tried to drive around him. He continued to put himself between my car and the way out of the parking lot. Only at that point, when I had no way out did I roll down my window. Yes I was arguing to keep my license. But never did I name call, or disrespect anyone. I cried. I was upset. Not many people wouldn’t do and feel the same. I argued that the license I went in with had been invalidated, and that if the one issued with my name was taken I would not have a license. But never not ever did I hand over the ID. It was taken from me out of my hands. The owner reached through my car and took both my old invalidated ID and the new one. I never got the old one back! I wanted to keep with my cute picture, and I never got my ten dollars back. I was so upset I had to sit in my car to try to calm down to come back in and take another picture. The evidence I have my drivers license picture with my crying. Every single time I am asked for ID I have to see that picture and re-live what happened. I suspect you are the owner. I think you are here to continue to bully me. Calling me a little girl and trying to insinuate that if I pursued legal action I would be stupid. What was stupid was the way I was treated. What was stupid was me listening to the lie that I would be in trouble with the law for leaving, and that I would have an illegal license. You were covering your own ass just like you are trying to do here.

  • Kyle Moore

    Me and my husband went through the same thing. Got married in Iowa with an included name change and then he needed a new drivers license with his new name. BUT Instead of asking questions, we just went from tag agency to tag agency until we got a yes, making as little noise as possible along the way. We eventually did get the license.

    The alternatives we considered were: a) get a passport issued with his new name and then use that as one of the forms of ID w/ Oklahoma or b) do a legal name change through an Okla. court with the reason being anything BUT marriage: “I want to have my own identity separate from my father,” or something along those lines.

    It’s a hard knock life for us gays in the south. This issue should be corrected eventually as soon as someone has the energy and money to sue over it.

  • Laura Gilsbach

    Me and my wife had this same problem except they told us we had to go to the court house and fill out some paper work pay 175 dollars and then wait for a trial date so the judge could decide if he wanted to let her change her name.

  • Lyndsey Hawn

    To me, (besides the other comments that others have already made in support of this couple) this c#@! goes against the song “Oklahoma”, Oklahoma’s official state song, from the musical by the same name where it says:

    “We know we belong to the land (yo-ho)
    And the land we belong to is grand!
    And when we say
    Yeeow! Aye-yip-aye-yo-ee-ay!
    We’re only sayin’
    You’re doin’ fine, Oklahoma!
    Oklahoma O.K.!”

    With this kind of behavior towards others and denying equal rights to EVERYONE regardless of their race, religion, sex, national origin, age, disability, sexual orientation, or gender identity or any other reason. Oklahoma is NOT “grand”, “O.K.” or “doin’ fine” if you ask me!! They need to change their state song to something else!!

  • Kitty Dana Bayless

    get a lawyer hunny!! please do not allow them to get away with this. best wishes to you both.

  • Jeremiah Taylor

    I usually don’t comment on things like this be cause i look at most things in a simplistic way. For me this is just a display of lack of respect for a persons decision.

  • Jacqueline

    I believe that from the moment you enter the state of Missouri with the intent to reside there, you are a resident and can immediately apply for and receive a drivers license. Licensing agencies are state owned and operated so there should be no discrimination if they “discover” that she is legally married to a woman and thus asking for a name change. I would pick a bigger city to do this in, like Joplin, which is just across the border from Oklahoma. While it might be dodging the issue, she could get a license in Missouri with her new name showing her marriage certificate, of course, then take that back to Oklahoma and use it to get a license there as she would then not have to ‘declare’ her marriage, only declare that she is now a resident of Oklahoma and seeking a license. And I’d try a different city; you don’t have to go to the city where you live, do you? and she should DEFINITELY contact ACLU, for the sake of everyone else in Oklahoma experiencing this same discrimination.

  • John Herider

    The state of Oklahoma voted for this in the legal system. Right… The people voted against same sex marriage. The people stated that marriage is between A Man and a woman. Now I understand the whole Idea of people who want to be a couple but they had to go to Iowa to get married. Not married with documents from Oklahoma. By Oklahoma law this Tag agency had Oklahoma law backing it up. I understand why you are mad come back from a state that approves it and come back to a state that rejects it. This is why this country is so messed up. They did have the right to reject the documents and if the other tag agency did this action of issuing a license with name change for you. They broke Oklahoma law. Oklahoma law states.
    Ҥ43-3.1. Recognition of marriage between persons of
    same gender prohibited.

    A marriage between persons of the
    same gender performed in another state shall not be recognized as valid and
    binding in this state as of the date of the marriage.

    [1] Added
    by Laws 1996, c. 131, § 9, eff. Jan. 1, 1997.”

    BDERIV

    Now they tried to amend this law in a vote with the people of Oklahoma a few years ago, but it got turned down. Sorry but law in Oklahoma is Law in Oklahoma if you don’t like the law you both as free American citizens have the right to move to a state that excepts this type of union. That is your right don’t get mad because you don’t get your way. Be happy that there is a state that will welcome you with open arms. Just not Oklahoma.

    • fiks

      People can certainly get mad and should. It is natural to be upset with stupid laws. This idea that “Well, that’s how the state is, so you cant be upset or criticize” is just stupid or unamerican- You may not be aware of this, but laws change all the time because of criticism and movements! People who get straight marriages in iowa dont have to worry about oklahoma pulling stuff like this because the marriage is interracial. Would you be ok with states negating other states’ marriage because one of the spouses is black and the other is white?

      • A.m. Harlow

        I don’t think the point is that the law is good and they shouldn’t be mad about it.. it’s just kind of ridiculous that anyone is shocked this is happening. If I had to leave my home state to get married because it’s just that backwards, when I got back I’d definitely be anticipating some roadblocks.

        • fiks

          He explicitly says “Don’t get mad”.

          I definitely agree that they should have been aware that this would happen, though.

          • A.m. Harlow

            I interpreted that as more of a “don’t get mad about this one individual slight” bc you could have seen it coming, but by all means get mad about the big picture and work to change it. I mean I’m probably wrong, but that’s just how I saw it lol

          • Stev84

            Nope. That’s not how he meant it. It’s just typical victim blaming.

    • fiks

      Also, things that are exemptions to “Full Faith and Credit” should definitely be criticized.

    • Stev84

      Go fuck yourself. “The people” can’t just decide to do whatever the hell they want. First off, the civil rights of minorities should never be voted on in the first place. Second. the law is unconstitutional.

      Direct democracy in America was metastasized completely out of control and it was considered a terrible idea when the country was founded. Turns out they were right. It’s a bad idea to vote on minority rights. And it’s a bad idea to directly elect things like judges or law enforcement officers. THAT is the reason why America is so deeply messed up. Giving too much power to uneducated, hateful rednecks. Making a political issue out of *everything* no matter the consequences for other people.

  • Brink of Complexity™

    I want to say that I totally disagree with the position of the tag agencies on this issue. If a court in *any* state legally authorized the name change for *any* reason, then they need to honor that.

    However, as a person with bureaucratic ID problems myself, I have issues with the *article*, especially the poorly-devised and misleading questions at the end.

    1. Flights don’t require your SSN or the associated card. You can book in whatever name you *do* have ID for, even if it’s a totally different name than what’s on the credit card you use for payment. Also, Oklahoma doesn’t issue passports.

    2. Cashing checks is also not a problem related to the name on your ID. Endorse the back of the check with the name on the front of the check, and deposit it into whatever account you want. If you are going to be “cashing” the check in front of a person, and they won’t take your maiden-name ID, first add “Pay to the order of:”, followed by whatever name you want, underneath the endorsement, and then sign that name below that. Check security protocol completely allows this.

    3. When was the last time ANYONE was ID’d for paying taxes?? The IRS *ONLY* matches the SSNs/TINs/EINs associated with your taxpayer account, and doesn’t care what name someone slapped onto it when they reported the income. So unless you accidentally/purposely/unknowingly *leave out* one or more income reports, or multiple separate filings are made for your Tax ID, they aren’t going to be contacting you about it. (And if so, they will, because it could indicate identity theft or fraud. Simply being paid under different names isn’t fraud — they’re called business aliases, whether they are registered or not.)

    There are plenty of problems and difficulties associated with not possessing a complete and correct driver’s license (like the recent Texas attempt to dirctly bar such persons from VOTING!!), but the issues listed in this article are not them.

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      All great points. The flight issue in my case is one I did to myself in a way. I was planning ahead like I do contrary to so many of these comments that suggest a lack of preparation. I bought a ticket to see my brother’s wedding in my new married name, because I was suppose to have plenty of time to change it. Had it gone the way it had for other of my “gay” married friends I would have had my ID and it would have been fine. Instead I have a little more hassle. I have to bring my marriage certificate and crying ID and get there 2-3 hours early and go through a more intensive screening process because I don’t have matching ID. In the future I can just use my maiden name until this is sorted. But had my brother been marrying out of country I would be screwed. I looked into a passport but I have to have a valid id to get it in my new name. So I can travel with my old name. I can’t change the name on my bank till I get my ID. #3 I have not thought about taxes yet and I don’t know how I will be effected if at all. So some of the issues in this article are issues for me but not for everyone.

  • Deirdre Hebert

    This is simply an attempt to deny someone who is married in a same-sex partnership the right to vote. If her legal name is not on her license, how can it be legal to vote with?
    It’s nothing but an attempt to make it difficult or impossible to live in that state.
    Someone in Oklahoma needs to file suit and get this changed. You can legally change your name for just about any purpose – as an author, actor, musician – whatever. And denying someone the right to change their name on their license,when it is changed on their social security card must be illegal.

  • Brink of Complexity™

    Anyway, as much as it shouldn’t be her problem in the first place, Sara can very likely, very easily, get a passport using her existing name change documents, and that will serve perfectly as identification for absolutely everything… including obtaining a driver’s license with the proper name, without having to show the marriage document.

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      Got to have a valid ID to get me a new passport…. I checked into it.

  • Rob

    If anyone can get a legal fund going for these girls with an attorney that will fight it to the Supreme Court, I will contribute.

  • Stephanie Manchester

    When my step mother and father got married, her divorce wasn’t “quite” legal yet here in Oklahoma, so they went to Texas.. and the next day she went to the Tag Agency and changed her name on her license. How is that legal, and this isn’t?

    • Queen Anonymous

      That situation involves man parts and lady parts.

  • Viiper Freido

    Geez, I would have run the person over, and punched the bitch in the face.

  • John B

    All she has to do is file for a name change. I’ve had my named changed twice. They even change the name on your birth certificate showing the date of the name change by the courts. I even have my old Drivers license with my old names. And when I reapplied for my passport, you just show them the court documents and your new birth certificate and new SS card. Its really simple. I hate to call BS to this but I have to. Maybe she tried to do a name change for her license via a marriage form but why not just do a name change with the other paperwork. But my 2 cents.

    • Stev84

      A legal name change requires a court order and costs money (fees + lawyer). While it’s possible, a straight couple in the same situation wouldn’t have to pay hundreds of dollars for it.

  • Aurthor

    Wow she really thinks she is 10 foot tall and bullet proof. Maybe she thinks she is God too. Either way it only makes a person wonder what kind of drugs she is on.

  • BZ

    I changed my last name at an Oklahoma tag agency, and I am married to another woman. I don’t know why this tag agency felt the need to deny the right this wiman has.

    • Queen Anonymous

      Because she was stupid enough to point out the other tag agency. She would have had the licence if she kept her mouth shut and let the drivers licence dept make the mistake.

      • Sara Doolin Maib

        This is very likely Red Cap here to continue the bullying. I pointed it out not because I was stupid, but because I am honest, and because I was just turned away at another agency. I was only trying to find out why that place would have turned me away only to have a place issue me a license. Asking questions and seeking knowledge is not stupid. So yes in doing so I pointed out to the tag agency the mistake they made, and I was made out to be a criminal trying to sneak something by them. So yes, now looking back to how I was treated and what happened I wish I would have just run away with out saying a word and never look back. But I didn’t I stayed and asked questions to find out if one particular place was being discriminatory. I don’t want anyone to have to feel the way I felt that day. I am not the kind of person that sees that kind of thing and just hopes it goes away. I will continue to defend myself and stand up to your lies and name calling.

        • BZ

          Sara, I am happy for you. I am very very sorry you have to go through the horrible heartbreak of not being able to change your name. I am 100% on your side, I promise you that. I cannot image the hurt you feel. I love this beautiful state, but unfortunately we are all the minority. I love my beautiful wife as much as you love yours. This state is so caught up in the Adam & Eve that they forget to realize the separation of Church and State. I honestly hope things get straightened out for you. I wish you nothing but happiness. I hope someone is punished for stealing out of your hands. Best of wishes to you and your wife… I would also like to apologize for all of the rude, hateful people that have posted on this. It’s none of anyone’s business why you are changing you name, and it has NOTHING to do with “boy parts & girl parts” as Queen Anonymous thinks. I don’t know you, but I send my love and support.

  • disqus_ZTY0fuTTyz

    This is a joke. I don’t believe this to be true one bit. No person is going to illegally detain someone by not letting them leave the parking lot then assault the individual by reaching in to her car and stealing something from her. This is a publicity stunt and a disgrace.

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      What happened to me is not a joke. I am here with my real name and my real face. I am standing up and saying what happened to me. You can hide and all me a liar if you wish. But what happened to me is no joke.

  • Lmaris

    Hope she has not registered to vote in her married name, as the GOP will deny her the franchise if the documents do not match.

    • Sara Doolin Maib

      I have not submitted my new voter registration to change my name. I was going to do it that day but…. they still have to deal with my vote. 🙂

  • bandanajack

    i would be pressing charges for assault and unlawful detention (i forget the proper legal term for holding someone against their will). at any rate, you can’t do that.

  • RexTIII

    This will most definitely not turn out well for the organized, well funded, minority of Oklahomans who support discrimination against the LGBT Community (including the Governor who has chosen to defy Federal requirements applicable to the National Guard based on OK land). While I am sure this experience has been horrible for both of these fine Ladies, taking steps to update HER drivers license with her new name (as required by the State when there is a name change) – just as every other citizen would do, will create significant impact.

    This is a revolting example of abusing citizens out of personal animus, and of course in this case, religiosity. Stay strong, and enjoy each minute of time necessary, improving life for everyone in Oklahoma. Your rights will be protected, others will be forced to educate themselves on the realities of Civil Life in the USA.

  • Chris Robinson

    Couldn’t she just go back to the agency she got her new license from and get another one?

  • Jeanene Lindsey

    If they issue a state id to a same sex married couple – they “recognize” the union as legal. To change this Oklahoma needs to change the law. I personally don’t understand why she had to inform the tag agency that her new mate was female…no one asked me if I married a man when I got mine two years ago..just saying

  • jonathanbartlett

    Just to point out, the infographic is misleading. According to her Facebook page, she had not *received* the SS card on October 18th, only filled out the paperwork. She used her marriage certificate, which is invalid in Oklahoma, to change her name. All she has to do is wait for the SS card to come in, and can change her name with that. It’s not rocket science – you can’t just say your name is something else – you have to have valid paperwork. Her marriage license is not valid in Oklahoma, so it doesn’t qualify, but an SS card would, once she gets it.

  • Coffee

    *Nice*

  • Russell Scott Day

    knock over some Confederate Monuments to Slavery while there.

  • Marcie Sawyer

    Unless something drastic changes between now and when my love and I marry, we’ll be facing the same problems as Sara and Jennifer are. Are there any updates?